Taoism

Rooted In Flow

My journey with Taoism began during my college years when I stumbled upon this ancient Chinese philosophical and religious tradition.  Its emphasis on living in harmony with the natural world instantly captivated me.  Rooted in indigenous Chinese beliefs and practices, Taoism has evolved through a tumultuous history, at times serving as China's official religion and at other times, nearly being eradicated during the Cultural Revolution.  Yet, Taoism has endured, and together with Confucianism, stands as one of the great philosophical traditions native to China.  I’d like to share how Taoism is still absolutely relevant to the modern-day seeker and how one of the core concepts can be folded into our lives.

The History of Taoism

Although the exact origins of Taoism are difficult to trace, it is generally believed to have developed around the 6th to 4th centuries BCE.  Lao Tzu, also known as Laozi, is a legendary figure in Chinese history and is considered the founder of Taoism.  He is believed to have lived around the 6th century BCE, although the exact dates of his life are debated among scholars.  The name "Lao Tzu" can be translated as "Old Master" or "Venerable Master," reflecting the reverence with which he is regarded.  He is traditionally attributed as the author of the Tao Te Ching, one of the most important texts in Taoist philosophy.  It offers profound wisdom on living in harmony with the natural world, emphasizing the importance of flexibility, adaptability, and balance in life.

In Taoism, "the Way" (Tao) is a fundamental concept that represents the natural order and harmony of the universe.  The Tao is often described as an indescribable force that underlies all existence and cannot be fully comprehended through human language or thought.  It is the ultimate reality, the source of all things, and the guiding principle of the cosmos.  The Tao is both transcendent and immanent, meaning that it exists beyond the physical world while also being present within it.  I can still recall my young mind grappling with this definition/non-definition of the Tao.  As a young student, I found this notion challenging to comprehend, but I've since discovered that the true essence of Taoism can only be grasped by living its teachings.

Over time, my understanding of the Tao has evolved. Once, I perceived the Tao as synonymous with movement, but now I recognize it as a Presence that encompasses movement without being defined by it.  Meaning, the movement is secondary to the primary position of expanding consciousness that is still, yet active.  This seeming contradiction is central to Taoist principle of “wu-wei”, or the art of effortless action.  Wu-wei litrally means “no action” or “non-action”.  It is the practice of moving in harmony with the natural flow of the universe, allowing life to unfold without resistance or struggle.    

The Taoist Farmer

There's an ancient Taoist story of a farmer who lost his horse.  Instead of lamenting his misfortune, he remained calm and accepted the turn of events.  Soon, the horse returned with three wild horses, and the farmer's neighbors praised his good luck.  However, the farmer's son broke his leg while trying to tame one of the wild horses, and the neighbors sympathized with the farmer's bad luck.  Yet, the farmer remained accepting and detached, and soon after, an army invaded the region, conscripting all able-bodied young men.  The farmer's son was spared due to his injury, and the farmer's neighbors marveled at his good fortune.  This story illustrates the essence of wu-wei, accepting the natural flow of life without resistance.  The farmer didn’t get attached to the idea of good or bad, but simply allowed the unfolding of life to flow uninhibited.

Cultivating Wu-wei

When it comes to seeking our purpose, this cornerstone of Chinese philosophy can be our guide.  From the perspective of The Living Art, finding your purpose is about aligning with your greater potential.  I explore this topic further in my post “What Is My Purpose?”  This core alignment requires a certain flexibility because it’s not a predetermined path.  In this context, wu-wei encourages us to remain open and receptive to the natural flow of life instead of being rigid and tense.  By embracing non-action and releasing our preconceived notions of what our purpose should be, we create space for the universe to reveal our true path.

Cultivating wu-wei in regard to aligning with your potential can be a very supportive practice that involves:

1. Trusting intuition: Pay attention to the subtle messages and synchronicities that guide you toward your path.  Open up to a greater intelligence and trust the wisdom of your inner voice.

2. Embracing uncertainty: Do not fear the unknown.  Instead, welcome the mystery and potential for growth that comes with uncertainty so you can welcome a new vision into your life.

3. Being adaptable: Remain flexible and open to change.  Understand that your potential may reveal itself in layers and evolve over time, so adapt as needed while you let go and follow.

4. Mindful observation: Pay attention to the present moment without judgment or expectation.  Notice the subtle cues from your environment by learning to “listen” and respond accordingly.

5. Surrender: Accept that you cannot control every aspect of life.  Release the need to micromanage and trust the natural process of unfolding that is inviting you on a journey.

6. Patience: Allow things to unfold in their own time.  Do not force progress or rush toward a specific outcome, thinking you must pounce on something or else you’ll miss out.

7. Being present: Anchor yourself in the present moment.  This is the only place where true change and transformation can occur, so it’s an essential to become grounded in the Now.

8. Nurtured by nature: Nature serves as a profound teacher in Taoist thought.  Observe the countless lessons on harmony, resilience, and the cyclical nature of existence to harmonize with nature.

Taoists believe that by understanding and living in harmony with the Tao, individuals can achieve inner peace, balance, and spiritual growth.  This involves cultivating virtues such as simplicity, humility, and compassion, and embracing the natural flow of life without resistance.  When we limit ourselves, we impinge upon the effortless flow of the Tao and create friction in our own lives.  Letting go then, becomes a restoration of what is intrinsic and natural within all of us.  Spending time in the presence of nature allows us to emulate the fluidity of water, the rootedness of trees, and the boundlessness of the sky to bring us closer to the wisdom of the Tao.

Lao Tzu's Advice

If we could sit with Lao Tzu and ask him about our purpose, I wondered how he might respond?  I imagine that he would likely advise us to embody wu-wei as we seek our purpose, allowing the answers to emerge naturally rather than forcing a specific outcome.  Lao Tzu might say to us, "Do not search for your purpose, but instead let it find you.  Move through life with grace and ease, aligned with the Tao, and your purpose will reveal itself."  We can then follow his guidance by practicing stillness, being present to life and embracing the journey because purpose is the process of aligning with potential—a natural flourishing of the Tao.  By integrating wu-wei into our daily lives, we create the conditions for our purpose to reveal itself organically. Through non-doing, we open ourselves to the wisdom of the universe, allowing our true path to emerge and guide us toward a life of meaning, fulfillment, and harmony.

The ancient wisdom of Taoism offers a refreshing perspective on life, urging us to slow down, embrace simplicity, and cultivate inner balance.  By integrating the principles and practices of Taoism into our daily lives, we can embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and spiritual growth, ultimately realizing our true potential.  As we align ourselves with the Tao and embody its timeless teachings, we empower ourselves to create a life of harmony, fulfillment, and inner peace, transcending the limitations of our modern world and embracing the boundless possibilities that lie within.

I help people align with their potential. If you’re ready to find a deeper connection with what truly matters, click here.

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Beyond Happiness

Externalized Pursuits

In our modern lifestyle, we are constantly bombarded with images and messages promoting an idealized version of happiness.  The marionette of happiness tells us we will finally be at peace when we have found the dream job, the loving partner, or the perfect fill in the blank.  But what if we've been asleep and sleepwalking towards something that can never quench our thirst?  No matter how enticing and convincing the illusion may be, the external world is not capable of filling you. 

Peacefulness is at the core of what we all desire.  It’s there, embedded within us.  For some it is more accessible than others, but it’s like a silent heartbeat that animates all of us.  In the extroverted landscape of our current society, happiness has become a misdirection. Why?  Because it is too often connected with gaining something outside of ourselves.  True peacefulness is not about the accumulation of external things nor is it the story of an externally focused life.  Rather, it is about turning our gaze inward and taking charge of managing our own well-being from within.  In this blog post, I’d like to explore the concept of peacefulness, how it differs from our modern definition of happiness, and how we can cultivate this essential quality within ourselves.

The Illusion of Happiness

Happiness, as we've come to understand it in our culture, is often tied to external circumstances.  We believe that once we have achieved a certain level of success, recognition, or material wealth, we will finally be happy.  But this pursuit of happiness is elusive; we are always striving for more, never truly satisfied with what we have.  Even once we attain the “thing” we’ve been chasing, it offers only a temporary charge of relief.  The hunger will return and throw you back into the hunt for happiness.  This constant striving can leave us feeling empty, disconnected, and ultimately unfulfilled.

The journey of self-discovery asks us to become conscious of our unconscious patterns, so we can wake up and make new choices that are in alignment with our innate potential.  No longer hemorrhaging our life energy and paying homage to false idols, all the while becoming more and more depleted within ourselves.  Continuing on the illusion of happiness treadmill is not only exhausting, but unnecessary.  We mistakenly believe that finding peace is somehow connected to "being happy" and that this will be achieved once the perfect circumstances arise in our lives. However, this mindset only serves to perpetuate our dissatisfaction and discontent.

Redefining Peacefulness

Being peaceful is an inner quality.  It’s not something you can pretend to embody or force yourself to accept because it is a state of being.  It arises as a result of digesting the true nature of life—that we can react, or we can respond to the moment.  When we react, we become entangled and drift further into the illusion of separation.  Emotions such as anger, frustration, and shame take root and we become lost to these powerful reactions, swept up in the drama.  When we respond, we are residing in Awareness and can make a conscious choice about how to manage ourselves.  Anger can still arise, but awareness allows us to be conscious of this reaction.  Meaning, we won’t follow it into the grips of chaos because we are going to choose a new outcome within ourselves.  In this way, being in control of how we show up in life is the path to peacefulness. 

When we remain focused on the external world as the provider of how we feel within ourselves, we are most certainly setting ourselves up for a challenging and ultimately miserable existence.  For example, you are in line for a significant promotion, and you feel anxious anticipation because your self-worth is tied up in the result.  You get the promotion, happy celebration.  You don’t get the promotion, dejected depression.  What if instead, you approached the situation through the lens of Awareness as an opportunity to grow, no matter what the outcome?  Then, we are inviting peacefulness into our lives because we are not being defined by the moment, but we are defining the moment.    

Experience Makes It Yours

To fully comprehend this internal shift, it must be awakened within us.  No amount of reading or studying can replace the authenticity of experience.  I’ve created an exercise to facilitate this process so you can set yourself up for success.  You’re going to choose one area of your life to begin with where you can consciously set up the parameters beforehand.  This way, you will already have the framework in place so you can create the space for Awareness to meet you.  Let's explore this technique that will help you nurture inner peace and transform your life. 

A Process to Cultivate Peacefulness

• For this exercise, you’ll need a journal and writing utensil.

• Set aside at least 30 minutes and start by identifying one situation in your life where you feel happy when you get outcome A and you feel upset if you get outcome B.  For example, you feel happy when traffic is light, and you feel annoyed when it is heavy.  You feel happy when your daily meeting is short, and you feel frustrated with it drags on. Write down your answer. 

  • Talk more about the situation and explore your own reactions.  Observe yourself and explain in as much detail as you can what happens when you get the outcome you want and what happens when you don’t.

• Now, if you remove the outside situation that triggers a response within you, how would you like to feel?  You have complete control over how you feel in the situation, how would you like to feel instead?  Inspired?  Grateful?  Calm?  Write out your responses and be mindful not to get caught up in the mind chatter of, “That will never happen”.

• Next, make a list of things that can support you in feeling the emotions you wrote about above.  If you are driving and get stuck in traffic, maybe you wrote down that you’d like to feel inspired.  What would help you feel inspired?  Would it be listening to an uplifting audio book?  A favorite podcast?  Or a certain style of music that eases your mind?

• Get prepared so that next time you are in whatever situation, you are ready to become conscious and take action. In this way, you have prepped the inner-scape beforehand so you are ready to make a new choice instead of defaulting to your usual unconscious habit.

• Finally, put it into action.  When you are faced with the situation you highlighted, use the resources you’ve prescribed for yourself.  If you don’t actively use the process, it will have absolutely no benefit for you. 

Embracing the Journey

Make a concerted effort to carry through with the above process.  It is a starting point and one that can be expanded out into other areas of your life.  You will see firsthand how it works and this experience is what you can build off of.  If you are met with resistance, say “hello, resistance!” and observe what is happening so you can find creative solutions to support yourself.  Remember, giving up isn’t a solution when change is what you seek. 

The path to peacefulness is a journey of self-discovery, requiring us to examine our beliefs, thoughts, and actions.  As we redefine peacefulness and shift our focus from external circumstances to our inner world, we can cultivate a life of contentment and balance.  The above exercise is proof that you are in control and can consciously respond to life instead of unconsciously reacting to life.  By implementing these creative tips, we can foster a sense of peacefulness that transcends the illusion of happiness.  As we embrace this new way of being, we become empowered to create a life that is not defined by the external world but rather by the deep and abiding peace that resides within us.

I help people align with their potential. If you’re ready to find a deeper connection with what truly matters, click here.

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