Be Willing

I’ve been teaching The Living Art for 6 years now and I’ve had the honor of helping a variety of people overcome their limits.  I often wonder why more people don’t walk this path.  Recently, I realized that most aren’t aware that something is missing nor what it means to turn within. Many become comfortable with masking the uncomfortable feeling that keeps poking them by turning to something that will numb the pain.  Is it that evening beverage, working out obsessively, the “buy now” retail therapy loop, or has food become a forever bestie? Instead of listening, turning to a familiar pattern might feel like a viable solution, but the reality is—it will never be a sustainable path to lasting inner peace.  The reason?  Because what requires healing is inside of you, not outside of you.  External distractions pull you further away.

The Journey Begins.

When I review the different ways people have come to and intersected with my work, I see that there is one critical component on the journey of inner transformation.  There is a starting point that is the same for everyone.  And that is the first step.

We’ve all heard, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  That single step is so important because it is your first step.  I want to take you even deeper so that by the end of this post, you are crystal clear about what “taking the first step” means when it comes to applying it directly to your own life.

So, what is the first step?  Where are you stepping?  In what direction should you be looking?  This way?  That way?  Where???  Before you get overwhelmed, just consider this.  Think of the “first step” as an internal switch that needs to be turned on.  Therefore, it’s not a physical step. It is a decision that you make within yourself so you can start the process of change.  The crucial “first step” is being willing—being willing to introspect and get to know yourself.  To be willing to get to know you, the real you, maybe for the first time.  This is your first step.   

The tricky part is that there is a difference between saying “I’m willing” and actually “being willing.”  You can say “I’m willing”, but then continue to ignore doing the actual work.  This is not “being willing”, but it’s pretending to be willing so you can trick yourself. This will only take you around in circles, eventually leaving you feeling frustrated and hopeless because no-thing is changing in your life. Let’s set ourselves up for success, instead.

Embrace An Introspective Journaling Practice:

Being willing, truly willing, is an internal shift that occurs so you can start the process of looking within.  Being willing means, you give yourself permission to pause and look at yourself.  To slow down so you can introspect.  To look at yourself without any shame or fear, but with a curiosity. Then, you act.  Journaling is a wonderful way to start the introspective process as it allows you to explore and discover.  Start with a notebook and pen, then begin by asking yourself, “How am I doing today?  I mean, really doing.  Do I have any tension?  What might be causing it?” Set the intentional space so you can allow whatever appears.  Instead of trying to change what you hear or distort what you know to be true in your heart, see if you can approach this exercise without any judgements. You are the observer and your job is to listen and record.

To learn more about how to start your own journaling practice, I’ve written an entire blog post called “Journaling: A Path Within”.

Make time each day to do a simple check-in with yourself.  You don’t have to create a complicated list of prompts to follow or put pressure on yourself to “perform”.  Rather, you’re showing up with the intention to just see how you are doing on the inside.

Be Willing & Be Transformed.

The most important component of this entire process is YOU.  Unless you show up for you, your life is going to continue along the same course.  Until you decide that you’ve had enough, the locomotive called “my life” will keep chugging along the internal tracks that you’ve laid in place.

Even if these tracks were put in place unconsciously and even if they are causing you harm, they are the dominant narratives that control your life.  You will not switch tracks unless you become conscious and start creating the new pathways within yourself.    

If you don’t take the time to get to know yourself and take care of your inner-self, nothing will change.  So, stay curious and understand that you’re taking the steps to build a relationship with yourself.  It will take time, practice and devotion, but it is a path filled with promise and profound beauty.

I help people align with their potential. If you’re ready to find a deeper connection with what truly matters, click here.

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Reconnect With Nature

Much of my childhood was spent playing in the forest.  Tree limbs were my jungle gym and sticks became my excavating tools as I would dig for rocks and quartz.  I can still smell the fresh scent of the forest ground and feel the textured bark upon my toes.  As I’ve grown up, my natural affinity with nature has not only sustained me, but it has nurtured and healed me as well.  When I am in the presence of the forest, I feel embraced—I feel heard, seen and welcomed.  In an era marked by an increased disconnection from the natural world, there is a growing yearning for something that can restore balance, peace, and well-being in our lives.  Enter Shinrin-Yoku, the Japanese art of Forest Bathing.       

Shinrin-Yoku (森林浴)

Shinrin-Yoku (森林浴), which translates to “forest bathing" or “taking in the forest atmosphere," originated in Japan in the early 1980s.  It was developed as part of a national wellness program to combat the stress and health issues arising from the rapid urbanization and overwork experienced by the Japanese population.  The practice has since evolved into a popular form of ecotherapy, attracting global attention for its potential to improve mental and physical well-being.  Shinrin-Yoku, as an extension of the Japanese people's love for nature, stems from the nation's deep cultural and spiritual connections to the natural world.  This reverence for nature can be traced back to Japan's ancient Shinto and Buddhist beliefs, which have significantly influenced the country's customs, arts, and values.

The term “Shinrin-Yoku" is composed of two Japanese words: “Shinrin" (森林), meaning “forest," and “Yoku" (浴), meaning “bathing" or “immersing oneself."  Together, they represent the act of immersing oneself in the forest atmosphere, absorbing its essence, and connecting deeply with the natural world through all five senses.  The research clearly shows that there are numerous physiological benefits of Forest Bathing, such as reduced stress, anxiety, and depression.  Forest Bathing has also been found to enhance mood, focus, and creativity, while fostering a sense of calm and clarity.  The science confirms what we already intrinsically know—being immersed in nature is beneficial for our well-being.

Forest Bathing enables individuals to connect deeply with nature and experience its restorative and healing powers.  The practice is not limited to avid hikers or conservationists, but it is a practice that is open to everyone due to its focus on conscious connection.   The experience of Shinrin-Yoku is there for everyone to experience through becoming more aware of what’s around you and welcoming the forest presence into your awareness. In this expanded state, we can appreciate the beauty, tranquility, and wisdom of the natural world, allowing us to find solace, inspiration, and rejuvenation amidst the modern world's pressures and demands.

Immersing Yourself in the Forest:

Here’s a step-by-step guide for beginners to help you approach the Shinrin-Yoku experience.  Having a framework will facilitate the planning and the time you spend out in nature.

1.     Schedule a Full Day: Start by fitting the experience into your schedule.  Plan to dedicate the entire day to your Shinrin-Yoku outing so you don’t feel pressured to rush or get back in time for another commitment.  Give yourself permission to dedicate this time as a gift for your well-being. 

2.     Selecting the Ideal Setting: Choose a forested area that feels safe, inviting, and accessible.  Consider factors such as the level of human activity, accessibility, and the diversity of plant life when selecting your Shinrin-Yoku location.

3.     Setting Your Intention: Before entering the forest, set an intention for your experience, such as releasing stress, cultivating mindfulness, or deepening your connection to nature.  This intention will guide your journey and help you remain present throughout the practice.

4.     Engaging Your Senses: As you walk slowly and mindfully through the forest, immerse yourself in the sensory experience by noticing the sights, sounds, smells, textures, and taste the fresh forest aroma.  Pay attention to the nuances of the forest, such as the rustling of leaves, the fragrance of damp earth, or the sensation of sunlight filtering through the canopy. Bring all your attention upon the experience and allow your senses to soak up the healing properties of being in nature.

5.     Embracing Stillness and Presence: Find a comfortable spot to sit or stand, and spend time in stillness, allowing the forest to envelop you.  Focus on your breath and let go of any thoughts or distractions that arise, returning your attention to the present moment and the sensations of the natural world.

6.     Reflecting and Integrating: After completing your Shinrin-Yoku experience, take some time to reflect on your journey and any insights or emotions that emerged during the process.  Consider journaling about your experience or sharing it with a friend or family member to further integrate its lessons into your daily life.

A Journey of Transformation and Renewal

The ancient wisdom of nature, harnessed through Shinrin-Yoku, is a powerful tool for modern living, enabling individuals to reconnect with the natural world, heal from the stressors of contemporary life, and foster a greater appreciation for the environment.  By immersing ourselves in the breath of the living forest, we embark on a transformative journey that not only rejuvenates our minds and bodies but also instills within us a renewed sense of purpose and connection to the world around us.

As you venture into the realm of Shinrin-Yoku, remember that this practice is a deeply personal and unique experience.  Embrace the opportunity to explore and discover your own path towards healing, growth, and self-discovery.  With each step taken in the forest, allow the whispers of nature to guide you, opening your heart and mind to the beauty, wisdom, and serenity that the natural world has to offer. In the words of naturalist and environmental philosopher John Muir, “In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks." As you immerse yourself in the art of Shinrin-Yoku, may you find solace, inspiration, and a renewed sense of wonder in the embrace of the forest.

I help people align with their potential. If you’re ready to find a deeper connection with what truly matters, click here.

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Emotional Alchemy

My education on emotional resilience began after I graduated from college.  For 9 years, I continually grew and perfected my understanding of how to navigate my emotions in stressful situations through being a waitress.  When I first began, I was extremely fragile and remember crying in the restaurant’s basement because I didn’t know how to manage how I felt.  Over the years, I studied what was happening inside of me and used it as a wonderful opportunity to not only get to know myself better but evolve in the process.  Being emotionally resilient is something we can all learn and it’s an extremely beneficial quality to cultivate.  So, let’s take a closer look and learn how we can embrace life's challenges as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

Healthy Coping Strategies

Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt and bounce back from adversity, stress, and challenging experiences.  It involves effectively managing emotions, maintaining a positive outlook, and coping with difficult situations in a healthy manner.  Ignoring the problem by turning to emotional eating, self-criticism or dwelling on negative thoughts and feelings all fall under the category of unhealthy coping strategies.  Emotional resilience is not about avoiding negative emotions, but rather about recognizing and managing them in a way that promotes growth and learning.  In this way, it’s something everyone can access and cultivate in their life.

Being emotionally resilient is an essential aspect of personal growth and well-being.  Emotional resilience matters for several reasons, including improved mental health, as it enables individuals to effectively manage their emotions and cope with challenging situations.  Additionally, emotional resilience allows for faster recovery from adversity, leading to a quicker regain of balance and well-being.  Enhanced coping skills, developed through emotional resilience, better equip people to handle stress and adversity, while also fostering a greater sense of life satisfaction through a stronger sense of purpose and meaning.  Finally, emotional resilience contributes to better relationships by enabling individuals to effectively manage conflicts, communicate efficiently, and maintain a positive attitude during difficult times. 

Emotional resilience is often perceived as a psychological quality, but it extends far beyond the realm of the mind.  From a spiritual standpoint, emotional resilience is a reflection of our inner strength and spiritual growth.  It represents our ability to tap into a deep wellspring of inner wisdom, allowing us to navigate the storms of life with grace and equanimity. Central to the spiritual dimensions of emotional resilience is the practice of mindfulness. Cultivating present-moment awareness allows us to become grounded in our inner experience, free from the pull of past regrets or future anxieties. By embracing non-judgment and self-compassion, we can approach our emotions with curiosity and openness, granting ourselves the space to grow and evolve.

The Alchemy of Emotional Resilience: Transforming Challenges into Opportunities

True emotional resilience requires a fundamental shift in perspective, transforming challenges into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.  By reframing our adversities as catalysts for personal transformation, we can begin to find meaning and purpose in the most difficult of circumstances.

Gratitude, too, plays a pivotal role in cultivating emotional resilience.  When we express gratitude for our challenges, we shift our focus from what is lacking in our lives to what is present, opening ourselves to the gifts and lessons that adversity offers.

The ability to transmute negative emotions into positive energy is a powerful tool in the arsenal of emotional resilience.  Through intention and visualization, we can harness the energy of our emotions, directing it toward personal growth and spiritual development.

Practices to Ignite Your Spiritual Journey to Emotional Resilience

Embarking on a spiritual journey to emotional resilience may seem daunting, but with the right practices and mindset, you can unleash the transformative power within you.  Here are some unique and creative practices to help you cultivate emotional resilience:

1.     Embrace the Alchemist Mindset: Approach challenges with curiosity and an open heart, viewing each obstacle as an opportunity to transform and grow.  Recognize that adversity is the crucible in which your inner strength and wisdom are forged.

2.     Gratitude Journaling: Dedicate time each day to reflect on your life's challenges and write about the lessons and blessings they have brought you.  This practice shifts your focus to the positive aspects of your life, helping you develop a more optimistic outlook.

3.     Emotional Energy Transmutation: When negative emotions arise, pause and acknowledge them.  Then, visualize these emotions as raw energy that can be redirected toward your personal growth and spiritual development.  For example, imagine transforming anger into determination or fear into courage.

4.     Mindful Meditation: Develop a regular meditation practice to cultivate self-awareness and emotional balance.  Focus on your breath and observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment, allowing them to flow through you, and gaining insight into your emotional patterns.

5.     Affirmation Crafting: Create personalized affirmations that empower and inspire you during challenging times.  Repeat them daily to reinforce positive beliefs and cultivate emotional resilience.

6.     Seek Out Inspirational Stories: Immerse yourself in stories of individuals who have overcome adversity and transformed their challenges into opportunities for growth.  These stories can provide motivation and perspective on your own journey toward emotional resilience.

7.     Nature Immersion: Spend time in nature to observe its inherent resilience and adaptability.  Allow the natural world to inspire and inform your own emotional resilience practice, reminding you that growth and renewal are intrinsic to life.

8.     Creative Expression: Channel your emotions into art, writing, music, or dance as a means of transforming and releasing them.  Creative expression can be a powerful avenue for self-discovery and emotional healing.

9.     Foster a Supportive Community: Connect with others who share your values and are committed to personal growth.  Share your challenges and triumphs and support one another on your journeys toward emotional resilience.

10.  Engage in Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding when facing challenges, recognizing that emotional resilience is a lifelong journey.  Acknowledge your progress and celebrate your victories, no matter how small they may seem.

Let the Light In

As you embrace the benefits of cultivating emotional resilience, it's essential to remember that this journey is an ongoing process, not a one-time achievement.  By embracing the alchemy of emotional resilience, we invite transformation and growth into our lives, turning challenges into opportunities for self-discovery and personal evolution.  As you continue to cultivate emotional resilience, you'll find an inner strength and wisdom that will not only empower you to face life's adversities but also illuminate the path toward greater spiritual awakening and purpose.

In the words of the great Persian poet Rumi, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you."  Embrace your wounds and imperfections as opportunities for growth, and let the light of resilience, compassion, and self-awareness guide you on this journey.  As you implement these practices and nurture your emotional resilience, you'll discover that the most challenging moments in life can become your greatest teachers and catalysts for change.  So, embark on this transformative journey, and embrace the beautiful alchemy of emotional resilience that lies within you.

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